I realized that if I want to be in better romantic relationships with men, I needed to address how I showed up in my friendships with them too. My hope is that the deeper and wider my friendships go, then the deeper and wider my friend's friendships will go, and so on. We can continue to heal the pain and hurt we've inherited from previous generations that doesn't serve us anymore.
Tag: relationships
Teatime with Tonya: Beauty Standards
When we know ourselves and are comfortable in the body, clothes, and image we have of ourselves, we need and seek less validation. While compliments are still nice to receive, we won’t need them to affirm what we already know to be true about ourselves.
Teatime with Tonya: Staying Hopeful (or Not) with Modern Dating
I don't think I can provide a concrete hopeful method to the madness, but I will try to share why I haven't completely given up on dating (yet).
Nothing To Be Scared Of
But he, and all the other friends I have in my life who hold me, laugh with me, make space for me, and have helped me see that I'm not too much, have aided in my healing process. And I hope that the way I have shown up for them has helped them heal too.
Irish Goodbye
I need to work on trusting my gut. Trusting my heart. Trusting that I would show up for myself again when I needed it. That I would leave when I needed to. That I would speak my truth and that the people who cared about me would still be there when I did.
...But Not With Haste 