My feelings of guilt aren't followed by strong feelings of regret. I think it took me this long to feel this way because I have been so happy with my decision to move here and pursue a PhD. But I know the importance and value of being able to hold two, oftentimes contradictory emotional truths at once, so being able to name how I'm feeling has helped me start to process this phase of living abroad.
Tag: love
Forbidden Friendship
I realized that if I want to be in better romantic relationships with men, I needed to address how I showed up in my friendships with them too. My hope is that the deeper and wider my friendships go, then the deeper and wider my friend's friendships will go, and so on. We can continue to heal the pain and hurt we've inherited from previous generations that doesn't serve us anymore.
Hello Beautiful
The beautiful and tragic part of life is that when you meet someone there’s no way of knowing the impact they’ll have on you.
Teatime with Tonya: Staying Hopeful (or Not) with Modern Dating
I don't think I can provide a concrete hopeful method to the madness, but I will try to share why I haven't completely given up on dating (yet).
Nothing To Be Scared Of
But he, and all the other friends I have in my life who hold me, laugh with me, make space for me, and have helped me see that I'm not too much, have aided in my healing process. And I hope that the way I have shown up for them has helped them heal too.
Irish Goodbye
I need to work on trusting my gut. Trusting my heart. Trusting that I would show up for myself again when I needed it. That I would leave when I needed to. That I would speak my truth and that the people who cared about me would still be there when I did.
Who I Am
I have to own my story, which are also the stories of the women who came before me.
...But Not With Haste 